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Taken from Yunho sunbaenim (thank you for letting me steal this), I found these sorts of questions to be a little more on the introspective side of things, so... why not? ㅎ I'm curious to know your own answers or thoughts to any, if you're up for it.

1. What is more difficult for you, looking into someones eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someones eyes when they are telling you how they feel?

I've been told my eyes are rather large to begin with, so would anyone really look deeply into them when telling me how they feel? ㅎㅎ Kidding aside, I think myself looking into someones eyes would be more difficult for me with the whole telling them how I feel. Eyes are the windows to your soul? Your eyes can say a thousand different things within a matter of seconds I think, at times, even to the point of making you seem vulnerable.

2. Think of the last time you were REALLY angry. WHY were you angry? Do you still feel the same way?

REALLY angry? ㅎ It's usually my own frustration that angers me or negative thoughts that follow me around like a dark cloud. They're annoying, aren't they? Wanting to shoo them away but they just won't leave. I think to feel that sort of frustration where it's seemingly impossible almost to rid yourself of your dark cloud that actually makes things a little worse than they already are and so, it's easy to get frustrated, or, angry. Do I feel the same way? No, I'm thankfully not yelling at a dark cloud right now. ㅎㅎ

3. You are on a flight from Honolulu to Chicago non-stop. There is a fire in the back of the plane. You have enough time to make ONE phone call. Who do you call? What do you tell them?

I've never been to either Honolulu or Chicago, first off... I would probably call my mother, if I just have the time for the one call. What would I tell her? I feel like no matter what I might put here, if I were actually in the situation, it would probably be a jumble of panicked thoughts.

4. You are at the doctor’s office and he has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? What do you do with your remaining days? Would you be afraid?

What a loaded question. One month to live... it's really not as much as we might think, considering how fast a year seems to go by the older you get; even how fast just a week goes. One month... I would have to tell the people closest to me, obviously. As for what I would do and if I would be afraid... I would keep living like I always do. Maybe take a couple more risks than I usually would? There's really nothing to lose after all at that point, is there? But that's how we're supposed to live anyways, isn't it? I think I would be afraid, afraid of the unknown and what's to come after I close my eyes for the final time. How can you not be?

5. You can have one of the following two things. Which do you choose? Why? Love and Trust.

I have to agree that these two things typically go hand in hand with each other. But. One over the other? Then... trust? I think it's more difficult to repair than a broken heart or a second chance at love. It falls in line with disappointment being worse than anger, I think. To know that you expected more of someone and that they let you down, broke your trust... it's a difficult thing to repair or shrug off so easily. At least, I think so.

6. You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late even once more, you are fired. Do you take the time to save the dogs life? Why or Why not?

Manager would fire me for saving a dog, would he? ㅎㅎ If I wasn't a vocalist, just some other job, maybe a baker like I wanted to be... I would have to save the dog and risk losing my job. The guilt that would come from knowing that I willingly turned a blind eye to another in danger, animal or human, would probably hit me somewhere deep inside. We don't just need to take care of each other but our animal friends as well.

7. Would you rather be hurt by the one you trust the most or the one you love the most?

This sort of goes back to that previous question with love and trust. I still have to stand by trust and say that I would rather be hurt by the one I love. Love is more forgiving than trust usually is, I think. We forgive a lot when we're in love, not so much when it's solely based on trust.

8. Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?

Does this happen a lot? ㅎㅎㅎ I think that depends on if it's mutual or one-sided? Mutual, then there's really no issue there, unless it's a conflict of work interest, then... that might need some more analyzing. One-sided... a lot more awkward to deal with. But, honesty is best in these situations and I would hope that if I didn't share the same feelings they held for me, that it would be something we would work around and not have it dampen our relationship as it currently is. Of course, that's maybe wishful thinking, right? ㅎ

9. Think of the last person who you know that died. You have the chance to give them 1 hour of life back, but you have to give up one year of yours. Do you do it? Why or Why not?

Losing one year of my life to bring someone else back for one hour... it's not that I'm afraid of losing that year of life, it's more... would that person want to be brought back for that one hour? You're not to mess with the dead once they have been laid to rest and found peace. I wonder if it would anger them or cause some sort of repercussions for doing such a thing. I think... I would stay away from such a decision? Let the dead be.

10. Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

This question ㅎㅎㅎㅎㅎ would I want myself as a friend? I want to say... maybe not really? Not because I don't think I'm a good person? More that I think I do better when I'm surrounded by those who are different than I am. Insoo is like that and because we are, we have a tendency to balance the other out in our getting along. I think that sort of balance is needed in life along with the similarities as well.

11. Does love = sex?

No. They can be entirely different categories, even if they intermingle with each other a lot of the time. I think for this, it entirely depends on how you view the two things. I think you can have love without sex just as you can have sex without love. Does it work for everyone? No. Does it work for some? Yes. The problem comes when either you, or someone you're with, starts to confuse either of the two? Or mix them together in a confusing way. That is, if you both parties view the two things differently. But with how intimate and naked (not just your body) you are to that other person, I think it's not so far-fetched that the two end up in a jumbled mess together for a lot of people.

12. Your boss tells your coworker that they have to let them go because of work shortage, and they are the newest employee. You have been there much longer. Your coworker has a family to support and no other means of income. Do you go to your boss and offer to leave the company? Why or Why not?

This is difficult... there's a certain guilt that I would feel about that, knowing they have a family to support but at the same time... do I also have a family to support? Do I not need to support myself? I think maybe to try and reason with the boss won't do much if their mind is made up? Maybe it paints me as a somewhat bad person but... I don't think I would leave the company. Unless I had something else lined up or it was a terrible place that had me feeling miserable with my life.

13. When was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt regardless of how difficult it was for you to say? Who was it? What did you have to tell the person?

These words in all capital letters... ㅎㅎ How I HONESTLY felt? I HONESTLY can't remember. It was probably one of the others regarding something work related? Sometimes I need to be a little hard, as a leader, but aside from that, I haven't had much to say in terms of expressing how I've HONESTLY felt as of late.

14. What would be (or what was) harder for you to tell a member of the opposite sex, you love them or that you do not love them back?

I love you is the traditional difficulty that a lot of people have admitting, isn't it? I think I would be ok with admitting that, if I loved the person. To say that I don't love someone who has feelings for me? I don't... consider it difficult? Maybe more awkward or a feeling of guilt that lingers for not being able to share their feelings. Because... it often takes courage for someone to admit that and to be given the answer they hoped they wouldn't get... but, it's better than being lied to or strung along, I think.

15. What do you think would be the hardest thing for you to give up? Why would it be hard to lose?

This is going to come off as strange but I think my emotions would be the most difficult to give up. We always want to wish the bad ones away or sometimes, be completely void of any emotions whatsoever. But to never be able to experience joy again. Happiness. Excitement. Even being so nervous right before jumping into something where you have no idea how it's going to turn out. Emotions make us who we are, both the good and the bad. I can't imagine a life of never feeling a single thing and just being numb to everyone and everything around me constantly, for the rest of my life.

16. Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them. Who were they to you?

Probably Insoo? One of the others? Can I say our Japanese fans? ㅎㅎ This is probably the easiest question on here to answer.

17. If there was one moment and one time in the last month what would you change and why?

Change a moment in the last month... nothing really comes to mind for this one. But I'm not really one who thinks that time should be messed with to begin with. If it's in the past, let it be, it's happened and it's over with already.

18. Imagine it is a dark night, you are alone, it is raining outside, you hear someone walking around outside your window. WHO do you wish was there with you?

Insoo. Maybe Seyong. Chaejin would probably be terrified and Junkyu... I'm not sure how he would fair? I feel like Insoo or Seyong would be the ones to have a weapon on them and try to see who was outside. Seyong probably... louder than he should be about it. Hope it's not a murderer.

19. Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying? Why or Why not?

I would. I'm not any more important than anyone else and I don't understand people who think they are because of their job or social status in the world. We all have the same blood and share the same planet that we call home. We're a lot more equal than we like to think or even admit for some.

20. You are holding onto your mother’s hand and the hand of a newborn that you do not know as they hang over the edge of a cliff. You have to let one go to save the other. Who do you let fall to their death? What was your rationale for making the decision?

Another loaded question... I want to say my mother because we've been through so much and she's given me so much. But a newborn baby that has years ahead of them... I don't know if I can answer this one, honestly.

21. Are you old fashioned?

I'm an alien, actually. ㅎㅎㅎ I don't think I am? I like to be able to have a meal and watch sports games if that counts for anything. In terms of relationships? I don't mind if I'm the one asked out or I do the asking out. Paying for things? I guess I prefer to do that, so if that's old fashioned then I guess in some areas I might be.

22. When was the last time you were nice to someone and did NOT expect anything in return for it?

I don't think I ever do? I didn't know that was a thing people did. Being kind to someone is something we should always do while not expecting anything (maybe other than kindness) returned. I feel like it ends up being a game of keeping score with who's done the more good deeds in a way than doing it out of genuinity.

23. Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a broken heart, or never loved at all? Why?

Of course this question would be in here somewhere. ㅎㅎ You always hear that saying of it having been better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, right? I think this entirely depends on your current state of mind. Years ago, I was dumped by a girl I was seeing in a coffee shop of all places. She had found someone else and I remember sitting there dumbfounded by it all and thinking that I didn't want to have to deal with this again. Now? Now I'm fine and feel that, well, if I had to never love again? I'm ok with that because I'm ok with myself and how my life is. If I do fall in love again and it ends up in heartbreak, it's going to suck. ㅎㅎㅎ But, I don't think I would regret it. I say all of this without even having lived it but, maybe I'll come back to this question + answer if I have my heart broken in the future and see how I feel afterwards.

24. If you could do anything or wish anything, what would it be?

For MYNAME to continue as strong as we have been and become even stronger with each passing year. It's our 5 year anniversary this year and I want to share many more years with these guys in my life. So I wish for that and their happiness and that I can continue to be a good leader for them all, even if I'm an alien and have questionable fashion taste. ♥

Thank you for reading. Until next time.